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By Maria Koshkarova
(Article written
giving a Russian woman’s on perspective on scammers. Take it to
heart!)
Dear guys!
A
short while ago I found the Russian black list. No need saying that scammers
can reach pretty much anybody, who is looking for a life partner online. However
I noticed (after reading the their letters) that there are certain things, you can
notice before the scammer reaches your bank account.
Why do I write
this?
Because I am also
one of you (more or less), somebody who is looking for a life partner and
decided to give it a try online.
I am a Russian
woman of 23 y.o. and I think, I know what a woman is
looking for online if she is not a scammer.
So, here are my
tips, I hope, they can help somebody to avoid a problem:
1. Do you need to
be careful? Yes, you do, however you should not go too far with that. If you
have a profile without a pic on
some site and hardly ever get any replies from ladies and then have bunches of
love letters from some kind of a Russian beauty, ask yourself: what is there that could make her fall in
love that quickly? Would you be able to fall in love with the profile you made
that quick?
2. Pics. Russian
girls have less technical possibilities than those, who live next door to you.
Bunches of professional pics is a reason to think twice before getting close to
that person. If she is a simple teacher with a minimal income and meanwhile she
sends you something, that looks good enough to be published on the cover of the
magazine, ask yourself where these pics come from. A lot of the pics that I have
seen here were "too good to be true" Style, light, make up, quality- those
things can mean that the pics were taken from a model agency and have nothing to
do with the person, who writes to you.
3. What kind of
pics should they be? usual. maybe made by a professional
photographer, but not top-model like. To be sure you can ask her to send you
later on a specific pic (not in
your first letter of course). She says,
she lives in
4. You can ask
later on for the pics she sent you before. You can say, you lost them and would
like to have them again. If she uses pics of other people and sends bunches of
letters to different guys, she may get confused and send you pics of a different
person.
5. Letters. This is
the first thing that can make you recognize a scammer. First letters can be
neutral, but the further it goes the more specific the letters become. If your
name is still mentioned only in the headline and never shows in the letter after
that, it is a reason to think that the letters are made for mass use and are
sent to a lot of people.
6. To move to a
different country is a big step, if she never asks you about your life, work,
family (not in general words (how are you today?), but specifically (how was
your weekend in
7. You write to
each other, so her letters cannot be a separate thing from what you write to
her. If you say that your aunt died/ your son went to school/you got a promotion
and she says, that the weather is still fine, it is a reason to have doubts
about the letters.
8. If you keep in
touch for a while (a few months), she shows deep interest and she is ready to
share her life with you, her profile will probably get removed from the dating
site, where you found her. If you are both ready to get married, why is she
still looking for guys online?
9. If everything
seems to be ok, but you still have doubts, you can send a reply to her profile
as a different user from a different email address and see what you get as a
reply. Once again, the first letter you get then may be the same as the one she
sent to you first (a lot of people have a pre-made letter for getting in touch
with other people), but the other letters have to be different.
10. if she is planning to come to you and
loves you like crazy ask her as a different user if she already found anybody
online. If she is a scammer, the reply will always be no.
There are other
things that can make you doubt. However these tips may help somebody :) If Elena
publishes this letter I will also try to write "how not to take a normal woman
for a scammer", I suppose, that also can be useful.
Good luck and remember, we are all different.
Maria